At some point you will likely come to the point of whether it is all worth it. To actually keep going back to court is about the only right you have. Everything else is just money. You want to see your children then you have to pay for the privilege. The courts are only concerned with whom is going to pay. That is the one and only purpose of the courts being there. They will even tell you they cannot force someone to be a parent or a good parent. No government can make legislation to enforce that. The one thing the courts could do is penalize poor behavior, deceit about statements relating to the welfare and care of kids, perjury or lying to get to the assets etc. But the courts won't do that.
As a male with young children you would be fighting what is considered to be natural. That children should always go with the mother. That is the stance the courts and all it's personnel and possibly even your own lawyer. The problem I have with this is that most judges/magistrates and likely most lawyers wouldn't have the foggiest clue as to what it is to actually be a stay home parent. Their minds are made up before you enter their office or court room.
So the ultimatum is not should you throw what's left of your life away on your children but should you waste whats left of your life in court orchestrated scenarios that are preordained. Of course this shouldn't go on too much longer than when your kids reach adulthood but it can do.
In my opinion your children don't benefit. We have a corrupt system that needs changing and until that's changed it's better to live life the way you want. Being a giving person in a family court will be seen as weak but acceptable. But get used to it if you go down this path. You are going to have to give, give and give more again and it will likely make no difference on what the magistrate thinks about you as a person. You represent a number only and to a large extent so do your children. They represent money only because of court policy and procedure. It's a very sad indictment on our society.
The pictures I have used here are to illustrate court policy, procedure and attitude. Those policies and procedures are of course not in my opinion correct, or just. And obviously they are not in the best interests of children.
As a male with young children you would be fighting what is considered to be natural. That children should always go with the mother. That is the stance the courts and all it's personnel and possibly even your own lawyer. The problem I have with this is that most judges/magistrates and likely most lawyers wouldn't have the foggiest clue as to what it is to actually be a stay home parent. Their minds are made up before you enter their office or court room.
So the ultimatum is not should you throw what's left of your life away on your children but should you waste whats left of your life in court orchestrated scenarios that are preordained. Of course this shouldn't go on too much longer than when your kids reach adulthood but it can do.
In my opinion your children don't benefit. We have a corrupt system that needs changing and until that's changed it's better to live life the way you want. Being a giving person in a family court will be seen as weak but acceptable. But get used to it if you go down this path. You are going to have to give, give and give more again and it will likely make no difference on what the magistrate thinks about you as a person. You represent a number only and to a large extent so do your children. They represent money only because of court policy and procedure. It's a very sad indictment on our society.
The pictures I have used here are to illustrate court policy, procedure and attitude. Those policies and procedures are of course not in my opinion correct, or just. And obviously they are not in the best interests of children.